Becoming Simply Love OSHO International Newsletter February, 2019

Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world. Until we fall out of love, and then its one of the worst feelings in the world. But what if we could get past the idea that love has to be in relationship with another, and simply be love?

Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world. Until we fall out of love, and then it’s one of the worst feelings in the world.

But what if we could get past the idea that love has to be in relationship with another, and simply be love?

“To be in love gives you only a glimpse of grace, but to become love is to become grace itself. Start by being in love and end in becoming love.”

Osho, Won’t You Join the Dance?, Talk #2

“When you fall in love you remain a child; when you rise in love you mature. By and by love becomes not a relationship, it becomes a state of your being. It is not that you love this and you don't love that, no – you are simply love.”

Osho, The Hidden Harmony, Talk #2

Is love basically a state of being?

"The real thing is not a relationship but a state; one is not in love but one is love. Whenever I talk about love remember this: I am talking about the state of love. Yes, relationship is perfectly good, but the relationship is going to be false if you have not attained to the state of love. Then the relationship is not only a pretension, it is a dangerous pretension, because it can go on befooling you; it can go on giving you the sense that you know what love is, and you don't know. Love basically is a state of being; one is not in love, one is love.

"And that love arises not by falling in love with somebody. That love arises by going in – not by falling but by rising, soaring upwards, higher than you. It is a kind of surpassing. A man is love when his being is silent; it is the song of silence. A buddha is love, a Jesus is love – not in love with a particular person, but simply love. Their very climate is love. It is not addressed to anybody in particular, it is spreading in all directions. Whosoever comes close to a buddha will feel it, will be showered by it, will be bathed in it. And it is unconditionally so.”

Osho, The Guest, Talk #5

Is it possible to be in love and yet be alone?

"One can be in deep love and yet be alone. In fact, one can be alone only when one is in deep love. The depth of love creates an ocean around you, a deep ocean, and you become an island, utterly alone. Yes, the ocean goes on throwing its waves on your shore, but the more the ocean crashes with its waves on your shore, the more integrated you are, the more rooted, the more centered you are.

“Love has value only because it gives you aloneness. It gives you space enough to be on your own.

"But you have an idea of love; that idea is creating trouble – not love itself, but the idea. The idea is that, in love, lovers disappear into each other, dissolve into each other. Yes, there are moments of dissolution – but this is the beauty of life and all that is existential: that when lovers dissolve into each other, the same are the moments when they become very conscious, very alert. That dissolution is not a kind of drunkenness, that dissolution is not unconscious. It brings great consciousness, it releases great awareness. On the one hand they are dissolved – on the other hand for the first time they see their utter beauty in being alone. The other defines them, their aloneness; they define the other. And they are grateful to each other. It is because of the other that they have been able to see their own selves; the other has become a mirror in which they are reflected. Lovers are mirrors to each other. Love makes you aware of your original face.”

Osho, The Dhammapada: The Way of the Buddha, Vol. 2, Talk #4

Can togetherness grow out of aloneness?

"If they are dependent on each other, clinging, possessive, if they don't allow each other to be alone, if they don't allow each other space enough to grow, they are enemies, not lovers; they are destructive to each other, they are not helping each other to find their souls, their beings. What kind of love is this? It may be just fear of being alone; hence they are clinging to each other. But real love knows no fear. Real love is capable of being alone, utterly alone, and out of that aloneness grows a togetherness."

Osho, The Dhammapada: The Way of the Buddha, Vol. 2, Talk #4

“Because each relationship fails, that's why you start searching for the ultimate relationship with God, with existence, with the cosmos. You see the futility again and again, that it is not going to be satisfied by any man, by any woman; that each experience ends in tremendous frustration, begins in great hope and leaves you in great hopelessness. It is always so, it comes with great romance and ends in a bitter taste. When it happens again and again, one has to learn something – that each relationship is only an experimentation to prepare you for the ultimate relationship, for the ultimate love affair.”

Osho, The Book of Wisdom, Talk #23

Should I be able to love myself before I can love anybody else?

“Yes, you have to understand that to be compassionate, one has to have compassion for oneself in the first place. If you don't love yourself, you will never be able to love anybody else. If you are not kind to yourself, you cannot be kind to anybody else. Your so-called saints who are so very hard on themselves, are just pretenders that they are kind to others. It is not possible. Psychologically it is impossible. If you cannot be kind to yourself, how can you be kind to others?

“The first step is to accept yourself as you are; drop all shoulds. Don't carry any ‘ought’ in your heart. You are not to be somebody else. You are not expected to do something which doesn't belong to you. You are just to be yourself. Relax and just be yourself. Be respectful to your individuality and have the courage to sign your own signature. Don't go on copying others signatures.”

Osho, A Sudden Clash of Thunder, Talk #8

"Just the opposite has been taught to you by all the traditions of the world, all the civilizations, all the cultures, all the churches. They say: ‘Love others, don't love yourself.’ And there is a certain cunning strategy behind their teaching.

"Love is the nourishment for the soul. Just as food is to the body, so love is to the soul. Without food the body is weak, without love the soul is weak. And no state, no church, no vested interest, has ever wanted people to have strong souls, because a person with spiritual energy is bound to be rebellious.

"Love makes you rebellious, revolutionary. Love gives you wings to soar high. Love gives you insight into things, so that nobody can deceive you, exploit you, oppress you. And the priests and the politicians survive only on your blood – they survive only on exploitation. All the priests and all the politicians are parasites.”

Osho, The Dhammapada: The Way of the Buddha, Vol. 5, Talk #5

“Love and meditation should go hand in hand. That is one of the most essential messages that I would like to share with you: Love and meditation should go hand in hand. Love and meditate, meditate and love, and slowly, slowly you will see a new harmony arising in you. Only that harmony will make you contented.”

Osho, Take It Easy, Talk #27

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